Why I write BDSM romance?

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This was listed in the BDSM for Writers Conference Newsletter get to know the authors weekly blog post. But for those of you who aren’t registered for the conference (although I can’t imagine why you’re not) or haven’t signed up for the newsletter or visited the website you missed my post that Dr. Charley Ferrer asked the authors presenting at the 2014 BDSM for Writers Conference to write to introduce ourselves.

 

I’m thrilled to be presenting two workshops that teach erotica writers how to use cutting edge software to self-publish their own anthologies and e-books. It’s nice to be able to use my previous skills as a software beta tester to help take some of the mystery out of self-publishing. If you have an interest in pursuing the world of indie publishing, please stop by my workshops.

 

Most of you that read my blog already have a pretty good idea who I am and what I write. Still, I figure the best way to tell you about who I am as a writer is to answer the question I get asked so often: Why do I write BDSM romance? This question is usually followed by—and do you live the lifestyle? I’ve never been a kiss and tell kind of gal. So I’ll leave it up to you to use your imagination when answering that second question. 😉

 

Sexuality is different for each individual, for each couple. I’ve loved books from the time I was small child drinking coffee and eating doughnuts while my grandmother read me the Sunday paper. As a teenager my taste in books leaned toward horror, science fiction, and paranormal romance. My first experience with romance books came from stealing bodice rippers from Sherry Luv’s bookcase. She was my babysitter.

 

Yes, that really was her name.

 

Some of the earliest erotic literature I read included the Sleeping Beauty Trilogy written by Anne Rice, published under the pseudonym A. N. Roquelaure which incorporated explicit BDSM themes into its adult fairy tale re-telling. I became fascinated not only with fiction but reading sociological and anthropological examinations of the culture. After all, my father instilled in me a deep appreciation for history. I’ve always needed to know not just the how but the why. This probably explains what lead me to software testing.

 

The most recent BDSM literature that I fell in love with includes the Original Sinners series by Tiffany Reisz. Its story compelled me at first because of its controversy and being the bad Catholic that I am, I felt an immediate need to read her books. Not only did she not shy away from material that may be deemed by some as offensive but by golly that woman can write! The intricate plot, the powerful characters, and well-written prose made me an immediate fan girl. In fact, I devoured her third book which ended with more questions than answers—to be fulfilled in the fourth book—that I went to buy the next installment right away and discovered it had yet to be released. Not realizing how active she is on Twitter I said something akin to, “Goddamn you and your cliffhanger” and she responded with, “Yeah, I’m a cocksucker like that” and I damn near spewed coffee on my computer screen.

 

The combination of the paranormal books and the erotic BDSM fiction I grew to love has played a huge part in defining the preferred sub-genres that I write. The psychology, the exchange of power and the trust that defines BDSM is what I find infinitely fascinating and it’s what draws me to writing it. A strong dominate man that has earned the trust of a submissive and cherishes her for what it is—a gift. Or the flip side of the equation—the man who is in control by day but by night enjoys being topped in the bedroom by a dominate woman. The beauty and honesty in well-written M/M BDSM romance that I love to read but haven’t been brave enough to write until I can do it justice. Writing sex scenes and erotica comes with its own technical challenges but writing BDSM is tricky. There are a million and one ways to get it wrong. I’d like to think that most of the time I rise to the challenge and that it rings with authenticity. But since I’m the new kid on the block I’ll stick to what I know best and show you the technical ropes of self-publishing instead. Stop by Twitter and say hello.

 

If you haven’t already registered for the 2014 BDSM for Writers Con you need to do it… like now… no seriously… stop reading this blog post and register to get flogged at Paddles. And if you think it’s just for writers, think again. This is a conference for anyone who reads the BDSM Romance genre.

By A.C. James

A.C. James resides in northeast Pennsylvania where she entertains her husband with her imaginative yarns and quirky sense of humor. She spends her time drinking large vats of coffee while taming two toddlers by day and writing by night. Recovering video game beta tester and tech geek who grew-up going to cons and watching SmackDown. There’s probably some cosplay pictures around somewhere of her dressed up as Bloodberry from Saber Marionette J. Just don’t tell anyone.